Friday, November 14, 2014

Our story

Today is special!! Hubs and I have been married 1700 days!!!!! Whoo hoo! Happy anniversary to us! I know today isn't the typical yearly anniversary most people celebrate, and we celebrate those too. But why not celebrate more often getting to be married to your best friend? We've had hurtful days, and we've had joyful days. I don't regret any of them. Eric is my very favorite person in the whole world, best friend, and my biggest encourager.

I prayed a long time for Eric. Not in the way you think most little girls pray for the "perfect" prince charming from the time they know what being married means. No, I actually wasn't sure I wanted to get married. My parents divorced when I was young, and still don't have the best relationship with each other. And other than a few rare glimpses at other married couples that seemed semi content, I had never seen anyone actually act like they LIKED each other. How sad, huh? And definitely not something I wanted to endure.

No, my prayers for Eric started much later than most girls. I had seen him a few times previous, but met him the first time when I was 23 years old. We were at church, and I made a random comment to him, and embarrassed myself, and wished I'd never said anything :). A few months later, a friendship started. My whole life had changed in the weeks prior, and I was totally focused on giving my whole heart and life to Jesus Christ. The Lord sent me Eric to encourage me and guide me. A few weeks later, he mentioned he would marry me one day, and I was completely horrified. Oh my. Maybe I should tell him I was NOT planning to get married? I figured he would decide pretty soon I probably wasn't the girl for him anyway, so I just didn't say anything. But over the next few weeks and months, I watched him. I watched everything about him. How he treated me, how he treated others. Did his actions back up his words, even when he didn't know anyone was watching? Could I make a mistake, and him handle it with kindness? What if he made a mistake? Would he admit and apologize, or blame someone else? I WATCHED! And I found he was himself always. And he made me smile and laugh. Something I hadn't done in a very long time.

So, I started praying for him. I mean, really praying. I prayed the Lord would keep him from falling. I prayed the Lord would protect him. I prayed a lot of very personal prayers regarding him. And then, one day, before I realized what had happened, I loved this boy. I wanted to be around him every chance I could. And I wanted to spend my life with him.

So, I started praying about that, too. Then, things got sticky. Situations came up that were hurtful. Opposition came in least expected ways. My heart broke. His heart broke. I was so very confused. So, I just kept praying. And he prayed with me. And, just when i thought the Lord had not heard us, things changed :).

We went hiking for my birthday, and had so much fun! At the Chimney Tops in the Smokey Mountains, there are little waterfalls along the entire hike. Then, you have to kind of scale a rock to get to the top and see the amazing view. Once up there, he started pulling out all my favorite snacks for a picnic. Then, he started talking very serious. And when he prayed with me, he slipped something on my finger and asked me to marry him! Whaaaaaaatttt?!? I had just given up. I had just told the Lord i would still love Him, regardless of how things turned out. I had prayed for 6 long years for Eric. What was happening? Jesus had heard. And He had answered.

So, we got married, started a family, and moved into our little cabin. I couldn't be more content than i am now. Do we still have challenges? Yes. Hard days? Yes. Things that hurt and we wish were different? Yes. But, we KNOW we are exactly where Jesus placed us. We are living His calling for our lives, and no matter what storms may come, we're in it together <3.

So, today, on our 1700 day anniversary (that's 4 years,  7 months, and 25 days), we are celebrating. Because why wait ALL the way until March every single year? I love him today. And I am excited to be his wife today :).

How long have you been married?


  1. Iris- To answer your question me and Tommy have been married 13 years and dated a year prior to that. I can honestly say it has been the best 14 years of my life. My first date with Tommy was a blind date set up by mutual friends and I thought what in the world am I doing as I had decided I was content being a single mom and would be just fine. The we went to dinner and the first time I met him, I knew I would marry him. We have definitely had our ups and downs and came from very different families and expectations but I can honestly say I would not change a thing about our marriage. We continue to grow each day and learn more and more about each other and I can honestly say I fall more and more in love with him each day. The Lord blessed me with a wonderful husband and a best friend and I am thankful that you have gotten the same blessing.

    1. Yay for 13 years!!! I think you guys are adorable :). And you are definitely a couple I learn from often ❤

  2. Iris that is so sweet! I had never actually heard y'all's story. We knew Eric and his family years ago when we met them at Halls Baptist Church...then when we started going to Temple and y'all had just gotten married and you were expecting Ely (I hope I spelled that right). Thanks so much for sharing. :)
    And to answer your question, Mason and I have been married for 18 years last August.

    1. Whoo hoo! 18 years! I love, love, love it when people stick with it :). Makes me happy :)

  3. So sweet. I am so glad Jesus answered your prayers and directed you to another Christian who loves Christ. What a great foundation. :)

  4. Jesus always directs right, even if we are unsure at the time ;). Thank you for taking time to read our story! ❤ . Eric sang How Firm a Foundation to me at our wedding :). You're right. A very great foundation!! :)